always get two cats

Do you have a pet? I've had several cats through my youth. The one I have now my family got right when it was born. It was a large cat family...maybe 7+ kittens. But we adopted only one. She was de-clawed and went through all standard house-cat-ification processes. But, ten years later, the cat is really fucked up. She is terrified of outside, terrified of other cats (we never socialized her), and has very strange habits. She'll start sucking on my t-shirts, maybe since it never had a real mother. My parents say (I'm at college, cat-less ;_;) she howls at night looking for me.

I guess the point is...does this sound remotely familiar?

edit - I found this paragraph after searching "socializing cats" in google:

Getting a new kitten or cat is exciting. Whether you have one already and are getting an addition to the family, or whether you getting one for the first time, socializing your new furry friend should be right at the top of your agenda. You know, next to the litter box training? It's too bad that a lot of people don't think of socialization as being an important part of owning a pet. In fact, socialization makes all the difference between a timid, aggressive, shy, scared, and/or irritable cat and a sweet, cuddly, loving, trusting, bundle of joy. Socialization also teaches your cat the rules of the house, what kind of behavior is allowed and what isn't. This is especially important if you have children in the house that might possibly be chasing your kitty around, picking him up in odd ways, and petting him a little too roughly for his liking. A well socialized cat will put up with all these things without lashing out, and that is what you want in a cat.